Growing up, the bathroom scale in my house wasn\u2019t just for measuring weight\u2014it was a daily source of shame. Every morning, my parents judged the number, and I learned to associate my worth with it. By sixteen, I could recognize their disappointment before they even spoke.<\/p>\n
My name is Carly Michelle Santos, and for thirty-two years I\u2019ve lived in a body that invited constant criticism. Strangers commented on my appearance, people assumed they knew my health, and I became an expert at apologizing simply for taking up space.<\/p>\n
I spent years making myself smaller in every way possible. I hid in oversized clothes, avoided attention, laughed at cruel jokes, and always put other people\u2019s comfort before my own. In college and later at work, I became known as the accommodating one\u2014the person who gave up seats, avoided crowded spaces, and never complained.<\/p>\n
What no one realized was that my kindness came from fear. I was trying to avoid humiliation, not earn praise.<\/p>\n
Everything began to change when I met Matt. Unlike everyone else, he never treated my body like a problem to solve. He reminded me that I deserved comfort, respect, and the same right to exist in public spaces as anyone else.<\/p>\n
For the first time, I started believing I belonged\u2014not despite my size, but exactly as I was. That belief would soon be tested on a flight to Denver, where I finally learned the power of standing up for myself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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