I had spent years teaching my six-year-old son, Mason, that a gentleman helps people and treats them with respect.<\/p>\n
My husband Ryan usually joked about my \u201cgentleman training.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then came his company beach picnic.<\/p>\n
Ryan hated the beach, but suddenly he was excited because his new boss, Lauren, would be there.<\/p>\n
At the beach, I struggled carrying bags and the cooler while Ryan barely helped.<\/p>\n
Later, I asked him to put sunscreen on my back.<\/p>\n
\u201cI feel awful in this heat,\u201d he complained.<\/p>\n
Then Lauren arrived.<\/p>\n
Suddenly, Ryan felt perfectly fine.<\/p>\n
He carried her bag, moved the umbrella for her, brought her a cold drink\u2014and eagerly rubbed sunscreen across her shoulders.<\/p>\n
When I questioned him, Ryan snapped:<\/p>\n
\u201cStop embarrassing me. She\u2019s my boss.\u201d<\/p>\n
Mason heard everything.<\/p>\n
Twenty minutes later, Ryan called out for someone to bring him something cold.<\/p>\n
Mason quietly filled his yellow bucket with ice water, walked over, and dumped it over Ryan\u2019s head.<\/p>\n
Ryan exploded.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat are you doing?!\u201d<\/p>\n
Mason calmly replied:<\/p>\n
\u201cTeaching you some manners, Dad.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lauren asked why.<\/p>\n
Mason explained, \u201cMom says a gentleman helps people and doesn\u2019t make them feel small.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lauren looked at Ryan.<\/p>\n
\u201cCourtesy that depends on someone\u2019s job title isn\u2019t courtesy.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ryan went silent.<\/p>\n
Later, he apologized to me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou carried everything while I worried about impressing Lauren. I treated you like the problem.\u201d<\/p>\n
I nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cAn apology is a start.\u201d<\/p>\n
Mason smiled.<\/p>\n
Apparently, gentleman training had worked better than Ryan thought.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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