I\u2019m a 29-year-old woman married to my 40-year-old husband for two years. We have a 1-year-old son and hired a babysitter, Lucia (20F), through an agency almost a year ago. She\u2019s been wonderful\u2014responsible, caring, and great with our child. My son adores her, and she fit into our family easily.<\/p>\n
A few months ago, I started noticing something off between Lucia and my husband. They were texting frequently, and not just about childcare\u2014there were jokes and casual conversations. When I brought it up, my husband brushed it off as harmless, so I let it go.<\/p>\n
Last week, I came home early and found them sitting very close. They jumped up awkwardly. That night, my husband admitted he\u2019d been \u201cseeing\u201d her for a while.<\/p>\n
It got worse. When I called the agency to report her, they told me my husband had already called earlier that day. He made up a story about her being unreliable, which got her fired. He claims he did it to \u201cprotect our family,\u201d but it feels like he was covering his tracks.<\/p>\n
Now I\u2019m considering leaving him. I feel deeply betrayed by the two people I trusted most with my child. He says I\u2019m overreacting and that leaving would \u201cdestroy our family.\u201d<\/p>\n
Am I being dramatic, or is this really as serious as it feels?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I\u2019m a 29-year-old woman married to my 40-year-old husband for two years. We have a 1-year-old son and hired a babysitter, Lucia (20F), through an agency almost a year ago. She\u2019s been wonderful\u2014responsible, caring, and great with our child. My son adores her, and she fit into our family easily. A few months ago, I …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4098,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4097","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/re3.webp","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4097","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4097"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4097\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4099,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4097\/revisions\/4099"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4098"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4097"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4097"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifestorybuffering.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4097"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}