My ex cheated on me for four years while we were raising three children together. After our divorce, he married the woman he\u2019d been having the affair with \u2014 let\u2019s call her Jane. They even tried to get full custody of the kids, but thankfully they lost.<\/p>\n
I thought that chapter of my life was finally over.<\/p>\n
Then last week, my ex called asking if I could help Jane \u201cbond\u201d with the children because she\u2019s infertile. I honestly laughed and hung up because the request felt unreal.<\/p>\n
But then my son told me something that made my stomach drop: Jane had been showing up at their school trying to take them to lunch and spend time alone with them. Every single time, my kids refused.<\/p>\n
When I confronted my ex, he admitted it was Jane\u2019s idea. She wanted to get closer to the kids and \u201cbuild a connection.\u201d<\/p>\n
I completely lost it. I told them both to stop involving my children in whatever fantasy they\u2019re trying to create.<\/p>\n
Now my ex keeps texting me, calling me cruel and accusing me of being \u201cmean to Jane.\u201d<\/p>\n
But I can\u2019t stop thinking: this is the same woman who helped destroy my marriage. And now she expects access to my children like none of that ever happened.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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