I\u2019m Jina, 38, born in California to Korean parents. I\u2019ve never lived in Korea, but my culture has always been part of me \u2014 the food, the language, the traditions, the way I was raised. Even though I\u2019m American, I\u2019ve always felt caught between two worlds.<\/p>\n
My husband Mark has never really understood that.<\/p>\n
He calls kimchi \u201cscience experiments,\u201d complains the house smells \u201clike vinegar,\u201d and once told me, \u201cYou act like you\u2019re from Korea, but you\u2019re not.\u201d<\/p>\n
Usually, I stay quiet and let it go.<\/p>\n
But last weekend something changed.<\/p>\n
Our 14-year-old daughter Ellie is the only one in the family who truly embraces my culture. She watches K-dramas with me, asks questions about my parents, and loves trying Korean food. So when she suggested we go to a Korean BBQ restaurant together, I was genuinely excited.<\/p>\n
At dinner, Ellie tried speaking Korean with the waitress, proudly using phrases she\u2019d been practicing for months.<\/p>\n
Instead of encouraging her, Mark laughed.<\/p>\n
Then he said loudly enough for nearby tables to hear:<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re not actually Korean, you know. Stop pretending.\u201d<\/p>\n
The look on Ellie\u2019s face shattered me.<\/p>\n
And for the first time in 12 years, I realized silence wasn\u2019t protecting my family anymore.<\/p>\n
It was teaching my daughter to be ashamed of who she is.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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